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		<title>Brilliant booktrailer, brilliant book, Jack Scott&#8217;s Perking the Pansies</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:40:26 +0000</pubDate>
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<p><div class="awshortcode-product aligncenter"><iframe src="http://rcm-uk.amazon.co.uk/e/cm?t=expatroller-21&amp;o=2&amp;p=8&amp;l=as1&amp;asins=1904881645&amp;fc1=000&amp;IS2=1&amp;lt1=_blank&amp;lc1=00f&amp;bc1=000&amp;bg1=fff&amp;f=ifr" style="width:120px;height:240px;" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe></div>Book trailers are THE way to get attention for your book. Jack Scott, author of <em>Perking the Pansies</em>, grabs you by the short and curlies with his&#8230; Hot off the press from Bodrum, Turkey.</p>
<p>OK, maybe I am biased – after all I&#8217;m it – but it is rather a fine piece of work. Well done, Jack (and Liam). You managed to make your trailer as unputdownable as the book.</p>
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		<title>I interview expat author Matt Krause about his Turkish love story A Tight Wide Open Space</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 22 Jan 2012 16:40:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jo Parfitt, Summertime Publishing</dc:creator>
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<p>Matt Krause is  a 42-year-old American man who met a Turkish woman on an airplane to Hong Kong, fell in love, and moved to Istanbul.  His website is <a href="http://www.mattkrause.com/">http://www.mattkrause.com</a>and now <a href="http://www.heathenpilgrim.com%20too/">http://www.heathenpilgrim.com too</a>, and my Facebook page is <a href="http://facebook.com/mattkrause1969">http://facebook.com/mattkrause1969</a>.</p>
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<p>When I first heard about Matt&#8217;s book, the title intrigued me. His answer, as to why he picked it, will make any expat (like me) smile:</p>
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<p><strong>&#8220;I thought life was going to be wide open and free-to-be-redefined after I moved to another country.  Turns out that&#8217;s not true at all.  I was the same person in Turkey that I was in the US.  It took a while for me to realize how cool that is.  It means you can go anywhere in the world and not lose yourself.  It also means you can redefine yourself at home just as well as elsewhere.&#8221;</strong></p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>Tell me about your book. What is it about? Can you describe it in just a few sentences?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>The book is called <em>A Tight Wide-open Space.</em> It is about my time in Turkey, mostly about my first couple years there.  The book is a memoir,  sure, but Istanbul and moving to another country are a whole lot more interesting than I am, so the book is mostly about Istanbul and moving to another country.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>Why did you write it?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>I wrote that book because I wanted to get those stories down on paper.  I figured in forty years I could be an 80-year-old man telling forty-year-old stories, or I could put the stories down on paper and then move on and go make new stories.  The latter sounded like a better use of the next forty years of my life, so I chose the latter.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>What qualifies you to write this book?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>Another book I wrote, Soapbox, starts out with an essay about an old friend of mine from high school, someone who passed away in an accident 10 years ago.  His sister, whom I hadn’t seen or spoken to in 25 years, wrote to me a couple months ago to say thanks for helping her find another piece of her brother.  Last week a man wrote to me saying that his brother is dying of cancer, and another essay in Soapbox helped him find strength.  A couple months ago a woman wrote to me about how a single phrase I use in A Tight Wide-open Space reassures her that everything’s going to be okay in her own life.  Last month one man liked ATWOS so much he bought 25 copies to give to friends as Christmas gifts.  The other day I was telling someone about the Heathen Pilgrim project, and he immediately started remembering road trips he took through California 35 years ago, and his eyes lit up with youthful excitement.  I haven’t even begun the Heathen Pilgrim walk, and I’m already inspiring people.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>When people stop telling me my writing adds something to their lives, I will know I’m not qualified anymore.  In the meantime, I will write, because I can help people that way.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>Why do you think your book needed to be written? What will it do for other people? How will it help? Did you have any competition?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>My book needed to be written because I needed to write it.  There was no bigger purpose.  I just had to get it out of the way so I could move on and do other things with my life.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>What will it do for other people?  Everyone seems to get something different out of it.  Some people like the descriptions of a foreign city, because those descriptions add color and flavor to their days.  Other people like the chapter about my father-in-law, because it makes them feel closer to their own relatives.  Some people like the parts about my business activities in Turkey, because they inspire them to be more entrepreneurial.   Everyone picks up on something different.  One person says Chapter X is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but Chapter Y is boring.  The next person says Chapter Y rocks, and Chapter X is the boring one.  That’s one thing about books I hadn’t realized, at least not up so close — that how people respond to a book says more about them than it does about the book.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I have lots of competition:  TV, movies, music, Facebook, kids that need to be fed, bills that need to be paid.  Not to mention authors who are already famous and proven.  The ways people spend their time are infinite, and they are all my book’s competition.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>Who do you think will read your book? What made you think that there was a market for it? If your book has been out for a while, what proof do you have that you were right?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Different people read this book for different reasons.  Some people read this book because they lived in Turkey decades ago and just like to hear someone talk about it.  Other people read this book because they dream about moving to another country, and want to read about someone else who did it.  Other people read this book because they don’t think girls can be picked up on airplanes, and they wonder how it’s done (hint: clumsy works just fine).</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I didn’t care whether there was a market for this book or not.  I wrote it for a different reason.  Turns out there is a market for it though, since I’ve sold a few.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>It does not matter how good a book is, or how good your writing is if no one knows about it. What steps have you taken or do you plan to take to promote your book? Are you a speaker or trainer? Do you have a blog? A website? A newsletter? Do you use Facebook, Twitter or other social media tools? What about press releases and sending out review copies and free articles? Have you had any other ideas? Which methods do you think work best and can you give me any examples?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>Promoting a book takes more time than actually writing it.  As I was writing this book I read a lot about how other people marketed their books, and I thought, “Wow, that sounds like a lot of work!”  I figured if I was going to put that much work into promoting my book, I may as well piggyback it on something else I wanted to do anyway.  So I dusted off an old dream I’ve had for the past 20 years, to travel from Cork, Ireland, to Ho Chi Minh City, and broke it down into something more doable (1500 miles walking across Turkey and Syria).  I’m calling that project Heathen Pilgrim, and a couple books are going to come out of that.  ATWOS will ride that project’s promotional coattails.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>That aside, I’m also promoting the book through the normal channels — blog, guest posts on other peoples’ blogs, interviews, Facebook, Twitter, etc.  But for every one person who does everything you’re supposed to do and becomes rich and famous, there are a hundred people who do everything you’re supposed to do and get nothing in return.  So do the things the experts tell you to do, but don’t worry about it too much, because you still only have about a 0.00001% chance of success.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>How did you publish your book? Did you find an agent, a publisher or did you publish it yourself? Please describe your process and tell us how you found the experience. Is there anything you would definitely do again or never do again?</p>
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<p>MK</p>
<p>I published it myself, using Createspace (print-on-demand for production, Amazon for distribution).  Finding an agent and a publisher is good but time-consuming.  As with anything time-consuming, ask yourself if there is a higher-value use of your time.  If the answer is yes, do that other thing instead.  If the answer is no, find an agent and a publisher.  In my case, I could meet my modest sales and distribution expectations on my own, and I had other projects I wanted to get started on.  But for other people or in other circumstances, finding an agent and a publisher is the way to go.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>What was your biggest challenge regarding the writing of your book? How have you overcome that?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>My biggest challenge was eating healthy food and exercising.  I ate way too much pepperoni pizza for my own good, and I went from running three times a week to running just about never.  Writing a book isn’t free, the resources have to be pulled from one account or another.  I chose to draw down the diet and exercise accounts while I was writing ATWOS.  There’s no way to avoid paying a price.  You just decide which accounts you want to pay it from.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>Now you have written this book, what has writing it done for you, your family, your self-esteem or your business?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>In addition to allowing me to retire to a Caribbean island where I drive a speedboat filled with bikini-clad models, writing this book has allowed me to, well, say I’ve written a book.  That’s actually a pretty cool thing to be able to do though.  It gives you some street cred when you start talking about a hare-brained idea.  I guess people figure anyone who is crazy enough to write a book is crazy enough to do just about anything.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>If you were to give advice to someone else who is thinking about writing a book, what would be your number one tip?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p>My number one tip would be don’t write one book, write a bunch of them.  If you only shoot for one book, that book is going to be your only chance to write a good one, and you’re going to put so much pressure on yourself that you never stop tweaking it, you never finish it.  If you plan on writing five books instead, book #1 isn’t your one and only chance to get it right, it’s what stands in the way of book #2.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Here are a couple bonus tips:</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Tip #2 is to read 30 books for every one that you write.  Whatever problem you’re trying to solve, someone has probably already solved it.  See how they did it.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Tip #3 is to get that first book written and out there, because it’s a lot easier to see your mistakes after you’ve made them.  If you haven’t made mistakes yet, you have nothing but shadows to box.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>And finally, how can people buy your book, in what formats, and what does it cost? Please include any links if you have them.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>MK</p>
<p><em>A Tight Wide-open Space</em> and <em>Soapbox</em> are both available on Amazon.com, in paperback or Kindle.  ATWOS costs between US$5 and US$12, and Soapbox costs about half as much.  The links…</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>ATWOS:</p>
<p>www.amzn.com/1460910435</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Soapbox:</p>
<p>www.amzn.com/1463791275</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>The Amazon.co.uk links for the Kindle…</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>ATWOS:</p>
<p>http://www.amazon.co.uk/Tight-Wide-open-Space-Finding-ebook/dp/B0055KHEJU/</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Soapbox:</p>
<p>http://www.amazon.co.uk/Soapbox-Miscellaneous-musings-ebook/dp/B005G9ATGK/</p>
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		<title>Interview with Jack Scott, of No 1 bestseller, Perking the Pansies</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jan 2012 09:27:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[. At the beginning I was a complete novice and fumbled around trying different ways to get the message out. I quickly learned that Facebook and Twitter were the big hitters for increasing an audience and for raising a blog’s SEO (search engine optimization). SEO is important because if your website doesn’t appear on the first few pages of a search result (and by this I mean Google as it’s the only one that matters) then it’s hardly worth being on the internet at all. Most other social networks are small fry, but I have found that Stumbleupon and Reddit also helpful to boost my readership from time to [...]]]></description>
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<p>I am thrilled to share this interview with my latest published author, Jack Scott. Perking the Pansies was published just before Christmas and sold more books in its first week than any other book I published last year. Earlier this month, Amazon showed this great memoir at No 1 in gay and lesbian travelogues.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>To find out why he wrote it and how he created the following that has ensured great book sales, read on&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>Jack Scott</strong> was born on an English army base in 1960, spent part of his childhood in Malaysia as a forces brat, idled his way through Grammar school, became a shop boy along Chelsea’s trendy King’s Road and then eventually settled for the dull security of a local government career. By his late forties, passionately dissatisfied with suburban life and middle management, his civil partner, Liam, and he abandoned the sanctuary of liberal London for an uncertain future in Turkey. In 2010, Jack started an irreverent narrative about our new life called Perking the Pansies; it became one of the most popular English language blogs in Turkey and has now spawned a book.</p>
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<p>The book:                                     <a href="http://www.jackscott.info/">http://www.jackscott.info</a></p>
<p>The blog:                                     <a href="http://www.perkingthepansies.com/">http://www.perkingthepansies.com</a></p>
<p>Facebook:                                     <a href="http://www.facebook.com/jackscottbodrum">http://www.facebook.com/jackscottbodrum</a></p>
<p>Facebook Fan Page:           <a href="http://www.facebook.com/perkingthepansies">http://www.facebook.com/perking the pansies, the book</a></p>
<p>Twitter:                                    @jackscottbodrum</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>JP</p>
<p>Tell me about your book. What is it about? Can you describe it in just a few sentences?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>The book covers the first year of my life with Liam in Turkey: a culture-curious gay couple from London on a bumpy rite of passage in a Muslim country. I describe the oddballs, <em>VOMITs, vetpats, emigreys, semigreys, </em>debauched waiters and middle England miseries we encountered, the fun we had along the way and our subsequent move to the heart of liberal Bodrum, a place we fell in love with. It’s an irreverent look at expat life in Turkey with a right royal dose of misery and joy, bigotry and enlightenment, betrayal and loyalty, friendship, love, earthquakes, birth, adoption and a senseless murder.</p>
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<p>Why did you write it?</p>
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<p>From the moment we came ashore, we encountered so many extraordinary people and situations that I just had to start writing about them. You could say that the book wrote itself. More importantly, I felt I had something fresh to say about expat living, about Turkey and about living as a gay man in a Muslim country. The book is not about being gay as such; it’s about two people, in love, living in Turkey as expats &#8211; who happen to be gay. I thought our story was worth sharing.</p>
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<p>What qualifies you to write this book?</p>
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<p>Well, the book is based on a series of astonishing events that we actually encountered, so I guess that immediately qualifies me to write about them! I have travelled around Turkey since my mid-thirties and have a good understanding of the country’s history and what makes it the place it is today. Finally, as an out gay man (I dropped out of the womb waving my jazz hands and screaming <em>I am what I am</em>) I know a thing or two about being on the outside looking in: I  feel I’m in a good position to comment on life as one half of a same-sex couple living in a Muslim country.</p>
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<p>Why do you think your book needed to be written? What will it do for other people? How will it help? Did you have any competition?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>I wrote the book for many reasons, not least because Liam and I are rare creatures in this part of the world. Gay culture is largely invisible and underground in Turkey and I hope our story may, in some small way, raise the profile of gay men and women here. It also demonstrates that it is perfectly possible to live happily within a different culture &#8211; by respecting that culture but still standing by the principles that make you who you are. Finally, it felt important to prick the pomposity and bigotry of some of our fellow expats &#8211; as well as celebrate the wonderful friendships we’ve formed here. As far as I’m aware, there is no other book of its kind on the market.</p>
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<p>Who do you think will read your book? What made you think that there was a market for it? If your book has been out for a while, what proof do you have that you were right?</p>
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<p>Many expat books about Turkey (and elsewhere) are about building the dream in a foreign field set against a magnificent backdrop of history, culture and landscape. I wanted to write something completely different, so I hope the book stands out from the crowd. Perking the Pansies also provides an alternative expat perspective of a British gay couple in a Muslim land. It’s not been done before and I hope people will find that interesting. Our story rattles along at quite a pace so I hope it will appeal to anyone who simply likes a good rollicking read. Initial sales seem to indicate that the book has broad appeal. Fingers crossed.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>It does not matter how good a book is, or how good your writing is if no one knows about it. What steps have you taken or do you plan to take to promote your book? Are you a speaker or trainer? Do you have a blog? A website? A newsletter? Do you use Facebook, Twitter or other social media tools? What about press releases and sending out review copies and free articles? Have you had any other ideas? Which methods do you think work best and can you give me any examples?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>I am a qualified trainer and a former business manager and these skills seem to have equipped me to plan and think strategically. This particular roller coaster ride began with the blog and I grew the readership by engaging with social media. The book came later. At the beginning I was a complete novice and fumbled around trying different ways to get the message out. I quickly learned that Facebook and Twitter were the big hitters for increasing an audience and for raising a blog’s SEO (search engine optimization). SEO is important because if your website doesn’t appear on the first few pages of a search result (and by this I mean Google as it’s the only one that matters) then it’s hardly worth being on the internet at all. Most other social networks are small fry, but I have found that Stumbleupon and Reddit also helpful to boost my readership from time to time.</p>
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<p>The key to a successful blog is good, fresh content (another SEO trick), a strong appealing theme and active engagement with your audience and network. This takes hard graft. I put the hours in and it worked for me. When the book was published I already had the infrastructure to help launch it. The trick now is to break out of the blogosphere and appeal to a wider audience. This is where a strong partnership with my publisher comes in. Oh yes, that’ll be you, Jo!</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>How did you publish your book? Did you find an agent, a publisher or did you publish it yourself? Please describe your process and tell us how you found the experience. Is there anything you would definitely do again or never do again?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>Several readers said that they thought there was a book buried among the blog posts. Eventually, I did too, and set about trying to write one and finding an agent or a publisher. You may recall that I found you on Twitter purely by chance. This is another example of the power of social networking. I emailed you. You responded almost immediately. I sent you some material, you critiqued it. I sent you more. You critiqued it again. I sent you five chapters. You said, “Let’s go for it.” That’s more or less how it happened. You took a chance and I’m rather grateful that you did!</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>What was your biggest challenge regarding the writing of your book? How have you overcome that?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>I’d say the biggest challenge was ensuring the book had a plot that readers would find convincing and engaging enough to make them turn the page. I wanted a book with pace and very little ‘fat.’ One of the first things you taught me was to dump storylines and characters that weren’t key to the plot or didn’t add interesting flavour. I tackled this by creating a story board, much like constructing a film, and quickly found parts of the draft plot that were either superfluous or in the wrong place.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>Now you have written this book, what has writing it done for you, your family, your self-esteem or your business?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>It’s early days but I do feel a huge sense of achievement. It’s virtually impossible to work legitimately in Turkey as an expat; writing the book has kept my ageing brain active and prevented me from propping up the local bars (well, most of the time). Liam has supported me through the whole, painful process. He’s my whip-cracking taskmaster, poring over every word and pontificating over every sentence. There was a creative tension in the air and the occasional brouhaha over lunch. It’s genuinely been a labour of love for both of us. Becoming a published author has opened up a new (and scary) world for me. The possibilities are endless.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>If you were to give advice to someone else who is thinking about writing a book, what would be your number one tip?</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>That’s easy.  Get honest feedback about your idea and your initial drafts, especially from people who don’t know you; don’t work in a vacuum, don’t ask your friends or loved ones. They will lie (though, Liam was brutally honest).</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>And finally, how can people buy your book, in what formats, and what does it cost? Please include any links if you have them.</p>
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<p>JS</p>
<p>The book is available to buy in paperback or on Kindle from Amazon.co.uk and Amazon.com, on-line and WH Smiths, Waterstones and any good on-line store or available to order from any good bookstore near you. Alternatively, if you order through my website, I make a few extra pennies from it. No pressure.</p>
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		<title>My writing life story course recommended in The Guardian and The Week!</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Nov 2011 08:30:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jo Parfitt, Summertime Publishing</dc:creator>
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<p>I am jumping up and down with glee&#8230; We have taken The Week newspaper for years, as it&#8217;s a fab round-up of international and British news in a handy A4 size. We love it. It&#8217;s long been an ambition of mine to create something &#8211; a course, a book, a service &#8211; that I could advertise in The Week, knowing that largely, its readers are my target market.</p>
<p>Then this week it happened without any intervention from me&#8230;</p>
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<p>There was a list of recommended writing courses&#8230; sourced from The Guardian newspaper&#8230; and THERE I AM!!</p>
<p>Double-whammy, advertised in two great papers.</p>
<p>Guess, I must be doing something right!</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a brilliant opportunity by the way to follow the entire How To Write Your Life Story program in a beautiful environment and with lovely food. Thanks to Lois and Bill, who run <a href="http://www.watermill.net">The Watermill at Posara</a> for inviting me.</p>
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		<title>Writers Abroad radio show 18 &#8211; Karen Greve Young on her shared memoir</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Sep 2011 15:30:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jo Parfitt, Summertime Publishing</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Karen Greve Young and her mother, Vickie Zacheis Greve, collaborated on a memoir that they hoped would change lives. The story tells of Vickie's battle with ovarian cancer, and of their relationship across the miles as Karen moves overseas and has her own battles to fight.  Vickie died 7 years ago and this book is a tribute to her life. Listen to the interview to find out about the journey the book took, how the collaboration was effected and the steep technological learning curve Karen has experienced in getting the book into print and released to the [...]]]></description>
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<p>Karen Greve Young and her mother, Victoria Zacheis Greve, collaborated on a  memoir that they hoped would change lives. The story tells of Victoria&#8217;s  battle with ovarian cancer, and of their relationship across the miles  as Karen moves overseas and has her own battles to fight.  Victoria died 7  years ago and this book is a tribute to her life. Listen to the  interview to find out about the journey the book took, how the  collaboration was effected and the steep technological learning curve  Karen has experienced in getting the book into print and released to the  world.</p>
<p>Find out more at <a href="http://www.ovariancancermemoir.com">www.ovariancancermemoir.com</a></p>
<p>You can listen to the show <a href="http://thewinonline.com/episode/interview-karen-greve-young-co-author-love-you-so-much-shared-memoir-story-her-mothers-battl">here</a>.</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Sep 2011 12:48:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jo Parfitt, Summertime Publishing</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you have been thinking about taking a course in how to write life story but wishing you lived in the Hague so you could attend my workshops, you will now be pleased to know that How to Write Your Life Stories is going to The Watermill at Posara, near Pisa, Italy, next October (2012).

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<p>If you would like to learn how to add SPICE to your writing, how to write compelling prose about your experiences and discover how to write in complete stories, then this is the course for you.</p>
<p>Held over one week in sumptuous surroundings with all food, accommodation and transfers taken care of, you will not regret taking a week off and joining me in Posara next year.</p>
<p>There will be lessons every day, homework to do every afternoon and yet there will still be time for feedback and exploration. You even get a day off in the middle precisely for that purpose!</p>
<p>How do I know that this course will really be that good? Because I attend one of Lois and Bill Breckon&#8217;s workshops myself, at the Castle of Park, over four years ago and that is where my novel, published this month, was born thanks to the tutelage of <a href="http://www.anitaburgh.com">Anita Burgh</a>.</p>
<p>Book before the end of this month to enjoy the Watermill &#8216;price freeze&#8217;</p>
<p>Book before the end the year to enjoy a £75 discount.</p>
<p>Book soon to make sure you don&#8217;t miss out. Places are very limited.</p>
<p>Find out more here at the <a href="http://www.watermill.net/writing-holidays/writing-holidays-programme-2012.php">Watermill</a></p>
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		<title>Interview with the co-author of Love You So Much, A Shared Memoir, Karen Greve Young</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Aug 2011 12:39:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jo Parfitt, Summertime Publishing</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Earlier this year I had the pleasure of working with Karen Greve Young, who wanted me to help her turn the draft of a shared memoir, written with her mother, Vicki, while she was ill with ovarian cancer, into a published book. This book appealed to me because it is about so many things: mothers and daughters; the art of letter-writing; sustaining a relationship despite Karen’s moves abroad; that proceeds from the book go to charity; that ovarian cancer is a silent killer and awareness about this illness needs to be [...]]]></description>
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<p>Earlier this year I had the pleasure of working with Karen Greve Young, who wanted me to help her turn the draft of a shared memoir, written with her mother, Vicki, while she was ill with ovarian cancer, into a published book. This book appealed to me because it is about so many things: mothers and daughters; the art of letter-writing; sustaining a relationship despite Karen’s moves abroad; that proceeds from the book go to charity; that ovarian cancer is a silent killer and awareness about this illness needs to be increased.</p>
<p>Today, Karen is having the launch party for <em>Love You So Much: a shared memoir</em>, which was published just two weeks ago. Today would have been Vicki’s 66<sup>th</sup> birthday.</p>
<p>Karen Greve Young is the co-author of “Cancer is Canada”, a report published in April by Charity Intelligence Canada. A graduate of Harvard University and Stanford’s Graduate School of Business, she is the Director of Strategic Initiatives at MaRS Discovery District in Toronto, Canada. She misses her mother every single day. <a href="http://www.twitter.com.karengreveyoung/">@KarenGreveYoung</a>; <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/Ovarian-Cancer-Memoir/244735292216543">Facebook: Ovarian Cancer Memoir page</a>; <a href="http://www.ovariancancermemoir.com/">http://www.OvarianCancerMemoir.com</a>.</p>
<p>Victoria Zacheis Greve was a life-long volunteer in Virginia and Washington, DC and a Certified Public Accountant focused on non-profit clients. She was the first in her family to go to university, earning a BS from the University of Delaware and a Masters in Taxation from George Washington University. She was married for 36 years to her university sweetheart and had two children. She died of ovarian cancer in 2004.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>Tell me about your book. What is it about? Can you describe it in just a few sentences?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>Our book is a shared story of the four and a half years of my mother’s ovarian cancer journey. In it, we share our own perspectives as mother and daughter, patient and family member, as life takes leads to different countries and different life stages.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>Why did you write it?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>After my mother finished her career and her full-time role as mother of the bride at my wedding, she needed something to focus on besides her cancer. One sleepless night, I came up with the utterly crazy idea that we could write a book together about her cancer experience. She loved the idea of a shared project that could help other patients and families…and off we wrote.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>What qualifies you to write this book?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>Countless people write about their life experience – for many different reasons. In our case, neither of us felt that our experience during my mother’s cancer was unique or worthy of being the topic of a book. But together, our shared experience provides a unique window into life with cancer from the patient’s and family’s perspective told alongside each other.</p>
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<p>Why do you think your book needed to be written? What will it do for other people? How will it help? Did you have any competition?</p>
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<p>Cancer impacted my mother and me differently, as it does patients and family members in all families. We hope our story will help others coping with similar circumstances to bridge misunderstandings and find mutual acceptance – while realizing that there will be hard times to work through. Although we have seen stories in which a surviving family member includes emails from a lost loved one, we aren’t aware of any stories where the patient and daughter/mother/father/son embark on sharing their story together. This was very much a shared project from the outset, and still is even now that my mother has been gone for more than seven years.</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>Who do you think will read your book? What made you think that there was a market for it?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>This is a book written by women – ordinary women – to which millions of women and men will relate. Cancer is the number one cause of death from disease globally and nearly every person has been impacted either as a patient or loved one. We found through our own journey that sometimes others’ stories were helpful in understanding what we were going through. We hope this will help others in the same way.</p>
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<p>This book also goes beyond cancer – it is the story of the loving but complicated relationship of a mother and daughter, both with strong personalities. It goes through the daughter’s early career, wedding and fertility challenges and the mother’s reluctant retirement and transition to having married children. It happens to include September 11 and the Washington DC sniper crisis, as we lived through both tragedies.</p>
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<p>It does not matter how good a book is, or how good your writing is if no one knows about it. What steps have you taken or do you plan to take to promote your book? Are you a speaker or trainer? Do you have a blog? A website? A newsletter? Do you use Facebook, Twitter or other social media tools? What about press releases and sending out review copies and free articles? Have you had any other ideas? Which methods do you think work best and can you give me any examples?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>I have done substantial public speaking on cancer and charity topics. We are notifying ovarian and general cancer organizations about our book and also sharing it with the wider media. We have a website (<a href="http://www.ovariancancermemoir.com/">www.ovariancancermemoir.com</a>), Facebook page (Ovarian Cancer Memoir), and I am on Twitter (@KarenGreveYoung).</p>
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<p>I am now based in Canada and recently co-authored a report on <em>Cancer in Canada: Framing the Crisis and Previewing the Opportunity for Donors</em> that received substantial press coverage; I have reached out personally to those press contacts, including Margaret Wente of the Globe and Mail and Libby Znaimer of Zoomer Media.</p>
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<p>What was your biggest challenge regarding the writing of your book? How have you overcome that?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>The loss of my mother. Continuing to work on our book after she was gone was excruciating – it still is. I am planning a launch party on August 19<sup>th</sup> – the day she would have turned 66 years old – and I want to call her to discuss flowers and lighting. Instead I turn to my Aunt Cyndi or one of my many friends who have helped to fill the gaping hole my mother’s death left in my life.</p>
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<p>Now you have written this book, what do you hope its publication will do for you? How has completing it made you feel about yourself?</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>More than anything, relieved that I have fulfilled my promise to my mom and myself that our story would be shared with others. I hope it is well received and that others appreciate the bravery, style and grace my mother showed throughout her cancer journey. Mostly, I am happy to have the book complete as a glimpse for my children and my nephews of the vivacious woman who was their GG.</p>
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<p>You have a huge launch planned for your book. A book launch is always a great way to kick off the publicity for a new book and is also a chance for celebration. Tell us a bit about yours.</p>
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<p>KGY</p>
<p>It will be a backyard (weather permitting), catered cocktail party at my home in the Kingsway neighbourhood of Toronto. My brother, father and aunt are coming from Virginia for the event, which is very much a celebration of our shared triumph with the book and also of my mother’s birthday. We’ll have an understated teal colour theme, as the teal ribbon represents ovarian cancer – this will be visible from the outset as guests are greeted with fragrant and delicious Hpnotiq champagne cocktails.  I plan to read a very brief excerpt of our book and introduce my family/our main characters to friends. Books will be available for sale and signing, but above all it is a celebration!</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>If you were to give advice to someone else who is thinking about writing a book, what would be your number one tip?</p>
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<p>Really and truly consider why you are doing it and whether you enjoy writing. I am not a natural writer and found myself honing my powers of procrastination in anticipation of writing the book. If it’s a book that is meaningful to you, it will come and it will be worth it.  For me, I am thrilled to have <em>Love You So Much, A Shared Memoir</em> as my first, last and only book!</p>
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<p>JP</p>
<p>And finally, how can people buy your book, in what formats, and what does it cost? Please include any links if you have them.</p>
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<p>Our book is available in paperback on <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Love-You-So-Much-daughters/dp/190488136X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1313348668&amp;sr=8-1">Amazon.com</a> ($18.95), <a href="http://www.amazon.ca/Love-You-So-Much-Shared/dp/190488136X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1313348699&amp;sr=8-1">Amazon.ca</a> ($18.95), <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-You-So-Much-Shared/dp/190488136X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1313348731&amp;sr=8-1">Amazon.co.uk</a> (£13.95), <a href="http://www.amazon.de/Love-You-So-Much-Shared/dp/190488136X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1313348769&amp;sr=8-1">Amazon.de</a> (€15.00) and <a href="http://www.amazon.fr/Love-You-So-Much-Shared/dp/190488136X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1313348790&amp;sr=8-1">Amazon.fr</a> (€13.40). The Kindle version is coming soon.<em></em></p>
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<p>It is  hard to be funny in real life and on the page. Debbie Fletcher, who wrote her hilarious memoir,<a href="http://www.bittenbyspain.com"> Bitten by Spain</a>, manages to do so though. Listen to my interview with her for my Writers Abroad radio show and just enjoy her frankness and her wit.</p>
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		<title>Want to write a book about your life?</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jo Parfitt, Summertime Publishing</dc:creator>
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<p>It&#8217;s always cool to be invited to guest post on other sites, so when I was asked to contribute to HSBC&#8217;s Expat Explorer blog I jumped at the chance.</p>
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		<title>Writers Abroad Radio Show No 4 &#8211; I talk to Niamh Ni Bhroin, author of The Singing Warrior</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[A little over a year ago, author, Niamh Ni Bhroin had scarcely begun writing her compelling memoir, The Singing Warrior. Today the book has become a business, an audio book, a music CD and a Kindle product and Niamh is helping others to spear their fears and realise their dreams.

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<p>A little over a year ago, author, <a href="http://www.thesingingwarrior.com">Niamh Ni Bhroin</a> had scarcely begun writing her compelling memoir, The Singing Warrior. Today the book has become a business, an audio book, a music CD and a Kindle product and Niamh is helping others to spear their fears and realise their dreams.</p>
<p>This is a story of hope, of survival and of profound change. Niamh shares the secrets of how she dared to bare her soul on the page here in this, my fourth show at The WIN Online.</p>
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